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The Quran and Sunnah infer that Ayesha the spouse of Rasulullah (s) excelled in character and faith
Ibn al Hashimi insists:
The Quran itself serves as a testament to the fact that Aisha (رضّى الله عنها) and the rest of the Prophet’s wives are righteous Muslims. In fact, the Shariah as expounded through the Quran declares that Muslims are forbidden to marry people who are not righteous. Allah demands in the Quran: “Marry those among you who are single and the righteous ones among yourselves, male or female.” (Quran 24:32) This is a command, in the imperative form of Arabic; even the Shia Ulema forbid their followers from marrying unrighteous women. To say that the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) would go against his own laws and marry a bad and unrighteous woman is undoubtedly Kufr! Ayatollah Khomeini said: “It is forbidden in Islam to marry the Fasiqoon (sinners).” So we ask this Ayatollah: is he accusing the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) of sinning by marrying one of the Fasiqoon?
The Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) said: “A man may marry [a woman] for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, or for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and [you will] prosper, or else you will be a loser.” If the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) did not even fulfill his own advice and if he married a woman of bad religion and bad character, then by his own words he would be a loser! We seek Allah’s Mercy from such slander. Surely the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) only married righteous women, and Aisha (رضّى الله عنها) was righteous.
Reply One – Sunni reports pointing to Ayesha’s marriage to Rasulullah (s) as a minor would mean that she was not mature enough to be exalted in character and faith
We read in Sahih Bukhari Merits of the Helpers of Madina Volume 5, Book 58, Number 234:
Narrated Aisha:
The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin Khazraj. Then I got ill and my hair fell down. Later on my hair grew (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girlfriends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me. She caught me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house. I was breathless then, and when my breathing became Allright, she took some water and rubbed my face and head with it. Then she took me into the house. There in the house I saw some Ansari women who said, “Best wishes and Allah’s Blessing and a good luck.” Then she entrusted me to them and they prepared me (for the marriage). Unexpectedly Allah’s Apostle came to me in the forenoon and my mother handed me over to him, and at that time I was a girl of nine years of age.
Sahuh Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64:
Narrated ‘Aisha:
that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e., till his death).
If the testimony of Ayesha is to be believed then Rasulullah (s) married Ayesha when she was six years of age. Now, according to Ibn al Hashimi Rasulullah set a rule of marriage, namely “marry the one who is best in the religion and character” – could he kindly elaborate on what traits a six year old Ayesha possessed that would have evidenced that she was the best in religion and character? A child aged six, no matter what part of the word she frequents is an infant, and as such lacks maturity and understanding, they are at the early developmental stage in their lives, and acquire knowledge of the basics of Deen as rote from adults. At that stage a child’s priorities are linked to recreation, their being shaped into individuals of probity and faith are developed during the period between puberty and adulthood as it is at that point that an individual appreciates what is wrong / right and recognises their role in the world around them. It is at this transitory stage from a teenager into an adult, that an individual appreciates his religious obligations, the duty owed to his Creator (swt) and develops traits of righteousness and faith. Ayesha was no different to a normal child, as one can see even when the marriage was consummated Ayesha was playing on a swing with friends. Thereafter, she did not just mature overnight, rather she continued to partake in child like activities that are common place for one that lacks maturity. This can be clearly evidenced by the First Lady’s own testimony in Sahih Bukhari Volume 8, Book 73, Number 151:
Narrated ‘Aisha:
I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet, and my girl friends also used to play with me. When Allah’s Apostle used to enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet would call them to join and play with me. (The playing with the dolls and similar images is forbidden, but it was allowed for‘Aisha at that time, as she was a little girl, not yet reached the age of puberty.) (Fateh-al-Bari page 143, Vol.13)
Even if Ibn al Hashimi’s argues that the tradition is prior to the consummation of the marriage, and she abandoned doll playing when she got puberty, it does not take away the fact that Ayesha was married at the age of six, and we challenge him to evidence the traits of righteousness and faith that this infant child possessed that excelled her over all the other females of that time. The fact of the matter is marrying one that excels in faith and character is not a rule set in stone, it is a mere recommendation, had it been a hard and fast rule there would have been no logic in him (s) (as per this Sunni narration) marrying a doll playing infant!
Reply Two – According to the Sunni school of thought, there exists no bar on marrying a Fasiq
Ibn al Hashimi insists:
This is a command, in the imperative form of Arabic; even the Shia Ulema forbid their followers from marrying unrighteous women. To say that the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) would go against his own laws and marry a bad and unrighteous woman is undoubtedly Kufr! Ayatollah Khomeini said: “It is forbidden in Islam to marry the Fasiqoon (sinners).” So we ask this Ayatollah: is he accusing the Prophet (صلّى الله عليه وآله وسلّم) of sinning by marrying one of the Fasiqoon?
Let us present a gift to the Nasibi author that will definitely stop his arguments in their tracks. We read in one of the most esteemed Sunni works Al-Muhala by Ibn Hazm, Volume 10 page 24:
وكذلك المسلم الفاضل كفؤ للمسلمة الفاسقة ما لم تكن زانية
“Also the righteous Muslim man is competent for an immoral Muslim woman as long she is not a fornicator”.
The actual meaning of the verses relied upon by Ibn al-Hashimi are that marrying a righteous one is worthier than marrying a Fasiq or an unrighteous individual. Sunni scholar Melbari records in his famed work Fatah al-Mueen, Volume 3 page 312:
نكاح المرأة الدينة التي وجدت فيها صفة العدالة أولى من نكاح الفاسقة
“Marrying a righteous woman who carries the quality of justice is more appropriate than marrying an immoral woman”
That is why we see that Prophet Noh and Lut were married to unrighteous women, and so was the case of Imam Hassan (as).
Reply Three – Sunni reports wherein Rasulullah (s) allowed his followers to remain wedded to unfaithful wives negates the claim that spouses should be the most exalted in character and faith
We read Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2044:
Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas:
A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him), and said: My wife does not prevent the hand of a man who touches her. He said: Divorce her. He then said: I am afraid my inner self may covet her. He said: Then enjoy her.
In an esteemed Hanafi work a more detailed account of the above cited incident is recorded, the wife in question is an adulterer, despite this the Holy Prophet (s) deemed it permissible for the Sahabi to keep enjoying her:
“A man came to Holy Prophet [saww] and said that my wife doesn’t refuse any touching hand, i.e. she is an adulterer. Holy Prophet [saww] said: “Divorce her”, the man said that she is very beautiful and I love her, then Holy Prophet said: “Then keep enjoying her.” That is, don’t divorce her and keep her with you.”
Dur ul Mukhtar, volume 2, page 25, Kitab ul Nikah (H.M Saeed Co. Karachi)
Can an unfaithful spouse be deemed exalted in character and faith? Certainly not, despite this according to this Sunni report husbands were allowed to remain wedded to such harlots!